Making a significant change in your life can be both daunting and exciting. Whether you or someone else has made a decision that will cause an upheaval, you can make the most of it by being positive and proactive. Tack this list to your mirror or refrigerator and star* the ones you want to give special attention to today.
1. Take an honest look at yourself. What are your strengths, weaknesses, skills? How did those influence—positively or negatively—your transition?
2. Step up your self-care. Major changes are physically and emotionally taxing. You need self-care now more than ever.
3. Engage your curiosity. What went wrong, or right? What could you have done better? What worked really well?
4. Find support. Since your transition affects your family as well, it is a good idea to seek the support of friends or professionals.
5. Work on your thoughts. Calm your fears and reinforce your sense of hope and happiness.
6. Focus on what you want, and less on what you don’t want. Keep your eye on the prize.
7. Reassure (or avoid) those who are threatened by, or jealous of, the change.
8. Create your own rite of passage. Ceremony and ritual help with all transitions.
9. Let go of how things were “supposed to be” and accept “how things are.” Find appreciation for what is.
10. Keep things in perspective. Or try on a new perspective. Don’t get stuck. Remember, the only constant is change.
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Marilyn Miller, MS, LPC ~ Psychotherapist
...Delighting every day in helping people find peace in their lives, relieving anxiety, depression, and promoting self-care.